Character's insecurities

 

Hello, friends!

Today I'd like to share with you some examples of insecurities that you can give to your characters. A well-written character should have at least one to be realistic (unless you have a specific reason for not including it). Of course, there are hundreds of insecurities out there, my list only contains what came to my mind while thinking about the topic.

Let's get into it!

A FEW WORDS ABOUT INSECURITIES TO CONSIDER…

No insecurity is pleasant to have. If we recognize we have it, we can start to work on it, even if it takes us years to change.

Insecurities we don't realize we have will typically be more dangerous, because we don't understand why we react a certain way and can project into others. 

If someone's insecurity is commented on by others, it can be a reason for a fight or other unpleasantries.

Insecurities can be a result of trauma, bad previous experiences or low self-esteem and they can vary in intensity from inconvenient to disastrous.

LOOKS:

scars, acne, birthmarks

body hair

blushing easily

being overweight/underweight

height

posture 

not being muscular

not having a distinguishable look

being too masculine / too feminine 

only having a couple of clothes

standing out too much when they're wearing what they honestly like

braces, teeth issues

psychical disabilities 

SOCIAL:

being unprivileged economically 

being lower class

having no friends 

being single

being an orphan

lacking a job or working in a bad one

coming from an unprivileged backgrounds

being a minority

being socially awkward 

not knowing how to start a conversation

being socially anxious

MENTAL:

not being the smartest

dry sense of humor

needing help

abandonment issues

not being strong enough to protect others

not knowing enough to solve an issue

trust issues

trauma

specific behavior caused by a disorder / illness

mental disabilities 

SKILLS:

not knowing how to fix things

not knowing how to cook

being clumsy

being unable to swim

being bad at sports

not being a good student

standing out because of not being knowledgeable or talented in a specific field while being surrounded by people who are

not having any specific talent

public speaking